Thursday, August 24, 2017

The Unknown

Bonjour!

and again, I've managed to put off publishing anything here for almost 2 months, is it? Well hardy har har to me and my repeated failed attempts of maintaining this darned thing but still needing it once in a while to declutter all the mess in this twisted mind of mine.

Lets move on to recent happenings.

So my engagement is in 9 days. Yes, I said engagement and yes, I said 9 days. never did I think that this day would come where I would put the words "my" and "engagement" in the same sentence. And I'm serious. I gave up on all things commitment and relationships 5 years ago or so and decided to focus on me and rid my life of men for good. And then I met my Future Fiance and all that trash talk about living my life without a man and all my plans that only involved "me, myself and I" went down the drain along with my ego. I can truly say I've been so blessed to be able to find love when I wasn't looking for it. I'd pour my heart out about the Future Fiance here, but I'll save that post for another day. Maybe after the engagement. We'll see.

Going back to the topic of the engagement itself, I've been back in my beloved hometown and I can honestly say my one month holiday was not wasted a single bit. I've been so busy with preparations that I didn't even notice how fast time passed by. I just realized how much more I need to do in terms of preparations. I've had friends ask me if I'm nervous or excited. Basically, those feelings haven't kicked in... yet. I am anticipating those emotions, but maybe I'll save them for a later day seeing as I can't afford to crash and burn now considering all the prep that still needs to be done. Hopefully I'll remember to update this blog with pictures. We shall see. *smirks*

Moving on heavier things....

My exam results came out a week or two ago and as expected, I failed another paper *sigh* But all is still good because 1, I'm used to that feeling of failed papers and 2, it was an anticipated failure. I failed my Criminal Procedure Code 1 paper which isn't a real surprise because I was personally struggling with it. The best I can do is try harder next semester and pass all my other subjects so I can make sure I graduate on time and start raking in the moolah (ka-ching!).

I am, however, starting to worry. Entering my final semester and still not a clue about what I'm gonna do with my life after graduation. To chamber or not to chamber. What other options do I have in the legal world aside from chambering? What's the procedure/path for me to get there? What if I wanna do something outside anything legal related? Oh gosh those questions haunt me in my sleep especially because I've been bombarded with those exact questions for the last few months. I've been avoiding burdening myself with these pestering questions but I know I can't dodge them forever. I'm gonna have to face them sooner or later, I'm just not sure when.

Other than that, life has been good. Life has been blessed. And I am thankful. I am beyond thankful.

xoxo

Friday, June 16, 2017

Hiatus

Bonjour

Wow I just realized how long I've left this blog untouched. I think my last post was during the 3rd or 4th week of my classes and now I'm entering the final week before I go back KK for the Raya break and come back SA to finish up my final exams and top it off with a mock trial for my CTA class.

The reason for my long hiatus? Where do I even begin? With all the filings we've had to do, classes that had to be attended and tests that needed to be taken, I've been submerged in workload that was far too much for me to bite into. Luckily most of the filings were group works, so while I'm at it, shout out to my firm mates for being so strong and supportive throughout this semester. I couldn't possibly do it without them.

Add the stress and pressure of planning an engagement- I've been running around getting preparations done for months now and yet there's still a lot to do. I feel like I've gotten most of it done, but yet there's still a whole lot more undone. I've booked my photographer and make up artist, I've gotten my door gifts ready (oh God I hope I have enough), and most of my hantaran stuff are all set. But there are still one or two things that I need to get for my hantaran, and I haven't gotten my fabric to the tailor yet and I still haven't browsed around for a mini pelamin. A part of me now is saying if I had known earlier how stressful it is to plan an engagement, I would've skipped it all together and go straight to the wedding ceremony. If this is how stressful it's gonna be planning an engagement, then I can't imagine the mess I'll be when I'm planning the wedding. (God I hope my future fiancee can handle the inner bridezilla).

As if that's not enough to make me lose track of time, I've also been facing some personal issues lately. Broken down friendships, tested relationship, homesickness, my general health. Some days are more bearable than others, but on the days when they aren't bearable, I pull back and hide in the comfort of my bed, praying the monsters in my head will go away when they're bored or praying that I'll have the courage to push back and move forward.

But all in all, I'm still good. I'm still standing, even if I'm a tad bit wobbly. I'll make it through with my sanity intact and my heart in one piece.

Hopefully.

Anyways, wishing all uitm students good luck on the upcoming exams, and may we all strive to achieve greater success. Amen.

x's and o's

Monday, March 27, 2017

Long overdue

Bonjour!

It's the fourth week of class. I know, I know. I'm late again. But life has been more tiring than it is hectic. Some good, others bad. It's been a roller coaster ride and my highs were sky rocket while my lows were down in the dumps.

After successfully completing and surviving 3 weeks of class, what I can say is that it isn't much of what I expected it to be, but it's still bearable. The workload hasn't really kicked in full blast, but the physical exhaustion that I feel is much of a challenge especially since my body can't really tolerate fatigue that much. And mentally challenging because of certain happenings that I haven't been able to comprehend logically and requires some adapting which leads to my emotional stress and we all know how emotional stress bugs me out more than all the others do.

Aside from that, things have been good but I can't help to feel like things around me are falling apart in a way more than one. I'm slowly learning how to adapt with everything. The new, the change and merging those with the old. Whatever it is, I've decided to stay true to my own self and if I need to walk away from something or someone, then I will do it with my head held high.

x's and o's

Friday, February 17, 2017

Move Forward

Bonjour!

It's around 1.40AM on a Friday when I'm tap tap tapping on my keyboard, furiously typing this entry. I know it's late and I should be asleep, but for some reason sleep has been such a foreign thing to me and I haven't been getting enough of it. On another note, I haven't been in a great groove. I don't know why but my days have been spent just rolled up in my blanket like a burrito with my lights out and the only time you'll see my face when it's not cooped up in my room is when I go out for prayers or when I'm starving. But anyhow, let's move on from that.

Exam results were supposed to come out today, but I found out my results earlier because I checked through an app before the admin or something like that shut that access down. So I still have some friends who can't check their results yet. What I can say is, I am glad I finally passed that paper I've been dreading and I passed it quite well, I might say. That means next semester will be a black and white semester for me. On one hand, I'm so glad that I'm finally another step closer to getting that law degree. But then again, there are so many terrors that could come up at the very last minute, who knows what life could throw at me. But I guess that's the whole point of stepping out of my comfort zone, huh?

So as preparation for the new semester, I've already went out and got myself a new suit and a couple white shirts. Aside from that, I also took the initiative of buying fabric and sending them off to a tailor which shall be ready by the end of the month. The new semester starts in the first week of March, so I'm going to have to make a move on buying that flight ticket and this semester is a bit of a bummer coz I can't extend my holidays since I have to be in the faculty on the first day for orientation  and briefing. In all honesty, I was planning on flying back to Shah Alam a day or two earlier that my usual fly days so that I could settle myself down properly before this hectic new life I'm about to embark, but it seems like I really don't have the heart to leave home any earlier than I have to. So I'll have to recheck my schedule and talk about flight arrangements with dad when he comes home this weekend.

It's not something I'm proud of, but I have to admit I've been in a funky mood lately. Like I said earlier, I've been in a groove lately and surprisingly enough this funk includes easily being snappy at the smallest things. Maybe it's my defence mechanism. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't stressing out about the new semester. I've got a lot of things to think about and I'm not sure how I'm gonna handle it. This upcoming semester is going to be a hectic one and I'm worried about coping with a busy schedule and balancing the stress of workload with my homesickness. Not to mention how my new schedule and lifestyle is going to affect my relationship. I know it's not wise to worry about by problems before they even come my way, but I can't help it.

The best I can do for now I prepare myself the best that I can and pray that Allah eases everything for me. Ameen.

x's and o's

Friday, February 3, 2017

Inner Self Destruct Button

Bonjour!

We've all heard how life comes with its ups and downs. So we accept that. We understand that a person can't be on top of the world forever and that bad things will happen occasionally in life. For some, it happens more often than others which makes a person feel cursed or something along those lines.

I don't know about anyone else but I have a bad habit of expecting the worse at times. Don't get me wrong, though. It doesn't mean that I'm a pessimist. I'm more of a realist more than anything. It's just that I have been so accustomed to things not always going my way and I know everyone has those days too. Where nothing seems to go right and you choose to call it one of those bumpy bad days.

But I take it to an extreme. Slightly.

My Scumbag Brain in Action

Call it self sabotage if you may. If things start to go too well in my life and nothing bad has happened for a while, I tend to anticipate a bad thing coming- sometimes even worse, I create them myself. It's hard to explain but if you've known me for a while on a personal level, you'd understand what I mean.

I'm guilty of sabotaging my happiness more than I'm supposed to and it's not like I do it on purpose, but it's more of a habit. Or maybe it's a natural response to my brain's inability to accept the thought that I deserve to be happy. All my life I've had thoughts about how much I don't deserve to be completely happy for no reason. I felt like happiness was something that people had to earn and it doesn't come rolling through the front door.

So if I have a lot of good things going on in my life on a continuous loop, I start to feel an imbalance and I start to panic, anticipating life to take it's course and send a sucker punch down my way to compensate for all the happiness that I was given on a silver platter. So much so that when nothing horrific happens after days of anticipation, my mind automatically goes into offence mode and picks into every small thing within my happiness, looking for a loophole somewhere that could be used against me. It's self destructive and I am highly aware of it. It's not healthy- emotionally or mentally. But I've been living with this condition for years and we all know how hard habits are to kick. I've been working a lot on it, but it doesn't feel like it's enough. I still constantly find myself sabotaging my happiness because in my mind, it's bound to happen anyways so why not have a bad thing that I was in control of rather than a bad thing that life chose to hurl at me.

I'm hoping someday I'll get over it. I'm hoping someday I can be really happy and know that I deserve to be that happy. Amin.

x's and o's

Exciting updates

Bonjour!

I know by now that no one really drops by to read the mundane things that goes about in my life, but that actually makes me far more comfortable ranting about whatever personal things that's been going on for my own personal records of happenings.

I am aware that its February and it's been a month+ of me not updating this dusty old thing, but I've been busy lately. Honest!

But nothing exciting really happened in January aside from me going back to Shah Alam for a couple of days to sit for my Insolvency II paper (which I am still nervously waiting for the results). Anyways, the S/O was in KL around that same time as well for some work related program and he took the effort to apply for a day worth of leave just so he could change his flight and fly home with me. So on 21st January, we boarded our first flight together and if I had to be honest, it was nice to not have to sit in a 2hour++ flight alone.

29th January was the highlight of the month tho. At 8.30PM on that day, the S/O and his family came over to my house to 'merisik'. Just to clarify things, merisik is actually a Malay tradition where the family of a guy comes over to meet the family of the girl that he intends to marry and the two families go through a process of getting to know each other better. Merisik was initially intended for a guy's family to ask the girl's parents if their daughter is still available or already taken and if she is still available, they ask for her hand in marriage on behalf of the guy. Its kinda like a proposal- Malay version. But since both our families are aware of our relationship and our exclusivity, the merisik thing was more of a formality and a platform for them to discuss things like when can we get engaged, how much the hantaran will be, etc.

So I can say that I am in a way "booked" by the significant other to be engaged. We haven't managed to decide on an exact date for the engagement yet, but we're getting there. I've been so busy these few days thinking about preparations for the upcoming engagement like picking out a theme colour and discussing dulang hantaran issues with the S/O. I've been on google so much lately looking for ideas that I'm starting to get headaches from staring at the screen for too long.

That's pretty much what happened within January 2017. I don't have much planned for February yet except for anticipating my exam results to come out on 17th February and then I need to prepare myself for the new semester. Maybe more exciting things will happen when I step into March because that's when the next semester begins.

Until the next update,
x's and o's

Tuesday, January 3, 2017

Mini Getaway Trip

Bonjour!

So how did you wonderful lovelies spent your New Years? No matter how or who you spent the arrival of the New Year, I hope you had a blast and made memories that will last you a lifetime.

It's the 3rd of January and I'm back at home with my usual routine. Everyone else is back at work and I'm home with mom while she goes on a New Year cleaning spree. I'm probably going to start with my revision for my upcoming paper which is my Insolvency Paper II on the 18th of Jan. I think I've been procrastinating enough and I'd like to see how it feels like to not have to rush to memorize every single case this time around. If it does me any good, it just might boost my motivation to not procrastinate for the next semester. But before that, I'd like to just jot some memories down here about my first couple of days of the New Year.

I mentioned in my previous post that I had plans to join the S/O (Significant Other) and his family for their annual New Year's Family Day at Karambunai. It was a blast. The accommodation was cozy, the view was breathtaking, the food was scrumptious, the fresh air was just what I needed to freshen myself up an the company were highly entertaining. We spent the days eating, swimming, chilling, talking, more eating and just having fun. It was mostly eating, tho. But it was a good opportunity for me to warm up to his family. I mean I've already accustomed myself to them within the 4 months of us dating so far, but the getaway trip really gave us that time to chill and just get to know each other a lot better. If anything, that trip made me miss my own big sister so much more than I already do jsut because one of his sisters reminds me of Sis Hana so much. We checked in in the evening of 1st January and were all ready to go and check out by noon of 2nd Jan.

After that my S/O drove me home but stayed for a little while. So we spent the rest of the evening just lazing around on the living room floor with my parents while munching on snacks.

All in all, it was a really good start to what I hope will be a really good year.

x's and o's

Sunday, January 1, 2017

2017

Happy New Year!

So it's the beginning of a new year and I've done my reflecting in my last post. I'm sitting in the living room, as I wait for my S/O (significant other) to wake up and fetch me for a day of family time with his family. So I figured I'd drop by and leave a couple of words here to kick off the new year, and at least I can proudly say I've blogged for two days in a row.

I spent my last day of 2017 with breakfast at home with the parents and my S/O before leaving the house in the afternoon to attend a Kenduri Kesyukuran at Sutera Harbour. It was actually the S/O's invite but as usual, I was his plus one for the event. After that we rushed down to Beaufort to his dad's hometown just to drop by for a while. Topped up the night with dinner with his family and then he sent me home around 10PM. Basically, I spent my new year at home, snuggling up to mom and feeding her with the snippets or happening of the day and skyping my niece who's in Virginia. All in all, it was a normal New Year's welcoming.

Lets get down to the nitty gritty. New Year's resolutions. I personally believe in an all year round process of changing. I don't think that changing necessarily has to happen at the beginning of a new year, but I also feel like it's nice to refresh on some goals and targets at the beginning of the year just to keep yourself in check. Upon my previous reflection, I've realized that I have been so blessed with more than I possibly deserve. I feel like I really don't want anything more. But goals are the basis for improvement and there's nothing more that I want than self improvement.

1) Get through to my final year of LLB with my sanity still in tact.
2) Brush up on my communication skills.
3) Work on my Social Anxiety
4) Stop procrastinating
5) Start taking my savings seriously
6) Upgrade my relationship status (wink wink fingers crossed)
7) Learn to multitask better
8) Learn to handle my stress better
9) Be a better person than who I was before.

So all in all, my goals for this year is mostly just things that I'd like to see improve within my own self. I realize that I am far from perfect and although perfection isn't something attainable, I'd like to get as close to it as possible.

Happy 2017, everyone! May this year brings more blessings and happiness to each and every one of us.

x's and o's